Monday, June 26, 2017

"BUILDING THE PALACE OF MERCY" (June 24, 2017 update)

What a journey this has been. Because I felt abandoned by my father at a very young age, this experience was an unusual journey of healing.  Many wounds and stripes became whole. The Palace of Mercy Orphanage will be a haven, a safe place to lie down their little heads knowing they will wake up to a warm breakfast served with tenderness.  The orphans will create their own family and learn love once again.  We are standing at the closing moments of this project which embraces "agape" love.  And I feel overwhelmed at the bigness of it all. Lost children, children of the "Bush," abandoned children, abused children will cross this sacred threshold. They will be frightened unable to discern what their future will hold. But they will be "Home."

So, we go back in time to the beginning. 

Pastor Budeli observed that many children really had no one to care for them. They were lost with a questionable future and even less hope. Pastor had a vision in 1993 to build a complex of many buildings. The orphans would be living in  some of them. There would be a play ground to feed their little bodies, a school to feed their minds, a church to feed their spirits and a series of workshops in which each child could learn a skill so they could be a contributing member of society and have skills to earn a living. 

There would be 6, four bedroom  dorms that would sleep about 12 -16 children safely.  Gardens for self sustainment would abound in the courtyard, and loving caregivers would help these lost children feel loved again. 

Let us start from the beginning. 

Sidney, Pastor Budeli and CJ storyboard.

(How to build a 4 bedroom structure in  less than 30 days.  The Race is on!!!)

Plans for the Palace. 

(First, we must "make a plan.")


From a simple drawing, Wayne created  a scaled drawing of the Palace.  This is all the builders had to go from.  But, that was more than they usually had... AND, we learned there is a city way to do things, but then again, there is the village way. 

Meeting - regional Social Worker responsible for child placement. 

(Met with Regional Social Worker Ernest.)

He explained there were no facilities to protect the vulnerable children. He had a list of many children who needed a safe place, but there was "no place at the inn" for these helpless children.  In essence, he assured us, "if you build it, they will come."  If the government sees a person is serious enough to build a building, they will then help with money for a director, care givers, expenses for the orphans physical needs, and teachers when a school is built. 

Nelson marks the building dimensions with sand. 

(Our first introduction to the "village way."  Nelson lays out the floor plan. 
The builders got the building drawn on the ground with dirt. Uuummm. 
Will that really work?)

The builders and Budeli. 

(The team was ready to kick this project off!  L to R:  Nelson, Philemon, Budeli, Frank and Philemon's brother.)

Pastor Budeli breaks the ground. 

(Pastor Budeli struck the pick, and the ground was broken.)

Volunteers. 

(Volunteers came in several times to help accomplish critical parts of the process.  
We were under a 3 1/2 week time span.)

Volunteers Praying. 

(Praying in the trenches never hurts.  We needed all the help we could get.  
The volunteers prayed for God to bless this land, and the building the orphans would call home.) 

Men making cement. 

(I was expecting a huge cement truck to burst upon the scene to make life easy. 
 But, NOOOOOO, it was the "village way" again.)

The men poured dirt and cement on the sand IN the trenches, then proceeded to twist and turn the sand and cement. Instead of  "turning hair into gold," they were turning dirt, sand and water into cement... 

Getting supplies in the Landie. 

(Sam Simonenko joined us again from California.  
She was just in time to get squashed in between baby mattresses and hula hoops. 
It was just a little too much, but we got it all over the mountains in fine shape. 
Sam has become a very vital member of our African Team.)

Women pounders 

(They say an African woman is a force to be reckoned with.   
"They also say,  "Empower the African Woman, and she will get the task done. 
These women are powerful!  Here they filled dirt from the trenches in the room, 
then, using a pole with a 15 pound tin of cement on the bottom, 
they pounded the loose dirt until it was hard and compact. Nothing could resist them.)

Baby in the area. 

(Our youngest volunteer was tolerant for awhile without his Mommy. 
But he began to sniffle, then whimper which vibrated into an all out squall that demanded attention... NOW!  
The Mommy, slung him over her back, tied him snugly in place, picked up her pounder 
and kept on pounding with her baby on her back. What a woman!!!  What an inspiration!)

" What an African cement mixer" looks like. 

(Another little surprise  emerged on the scene.  Again, I expected something huge to happen, 
but instead of a piece of heavy machinery, two guys calmly made a circle banked by sand; 
they dumped cement on the sand and basin, filled the dirt basin with water 
and began to twist and turn the concoction as it thoroughly mixed.  
Then they loaded it into wheel barrows and walked it to the builders laying bricks.  
Very heavy  work, combined with the angry heat, tends to suck all the energy right out of a man.) 

Windows appear. 


(Windows are being built in as the brick walls grow. The structure is forming and beginning to look like a building.) 

Earth digger. 

("Jaws of the earth" lumbers onto our building site and began ripping a gapping hole in the ground.  
Our septic system is in the birthing process. This is a whole other deal. 
We will tell you about the Challenge to trade a Septic Hole If the Author Eats A Mopani Worm." 
It is a long and grisly story...)

Workers on lunch break. 

(These workers are hard working men and they only take one break at about 2:00 p.m. for lunch. 
We bought them Mealie and chicken parts so they could have their daily "pap," the only thing that really satisfies an African man's hunger. Our dear friends Nelson and Frank are one of the Builder teams.  Sam also brought them a daily treat of oranges, bread and soft drinks, or other substantial snacks. These guys can put away the food!)

The interior walls are constructed. 

(What a thrill to watch the interior walls begin to take shape and grow. 
 Brick by brick we could witness Budeli's Vision transforming into a reality of brick and mortar. 
We prayed love into every brick and could feel the energy of something bigger than ourselves.)

Sidney meeting with workers. 


(Each morning we briefly met with the workers so we were always on the same page. These men did not have plans or blueprints. They were building the Palace of Mercy from a small drawing on notebook paper.  Each day we briefly discussed what would be done that day and what materials they needed.  Since Masisi is in a forgotten place,
 it meant we had to drive at least 2 to 3 hours to a town big enough to get supplies.)

We were "high class gofers."  But we all happily did what had to be done. 

The work crew and us praying together. 


(The South Africans are a loving and spiritual people. We prayed together for this building, that God's hand move all of us to the greatness of this task. That the building be blessed for the intended purpose and that their work was building a refuge for the most vulnerable children in their midst.)

We also ask for your prayers as well. Several of you have already been lifting us in prayer; for that we are very grateful. 


Until next time... From the Bush with love ❤️, Sidney

Monday, June 12, 2017

THE PRIVILEGE OF FEEDING LITTLE MINDS AND TUMMIES (June 9, 2017 update)

One of the cornerstones of Helping Hands Touching Hearts ♥️ philosophy was inspired by the  Bible verses Matthew 25:35-40.  "...For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat... I needed clothes and you clothed me... I was homeless and you took me in..."  And the righteous asked, "Lord when did we see You hungry and feed you?  See you needing clothes and clothing you... or homeless and took you in."  

The Lord answered, "... I tell you the truth, whatever you did for one of these least ones, you did for me."

(Caption: HHTH supports education for the Zimbabwe children at Monde School to " feed their minds.")

Needed supplies are brought where they had none, to support the children's learning.  Each orphan received a bright folder with with a coloring book inside. 

(Trust learns the process of their food distribution.)

He can deliver in our absence.  We have found a reliable source from whom to buy the food.  Neal gives 25 kg of Mealie for the same price as the 20 kg  of Mealie from our original source. So the children get more food. 

Trust and Modestar will deliver the food 3 times this year when we are not in Zimbabwe. 

(Basic needs are treasures to these children.)

Each child also received  food, clothes, shoes, and tuition fees.  These essentials make their life a lot less stressful. 

(Kai and Shana's tribe.)

Twenty six of their 28 children were present to claim their food. They were joyful to also receive a bright, colorful school bag. 

(Guardians happily help the children get their food.)

This means walking a few miles with the heavy load to get it to their settlement.  The children know they will get two meals a day instead of one. 

(Despite their size, the children eagerly wrestle the big bags to get their food home.  
Their meal tonight will be especially delicious!)

(Carrying her weight in Mealie.)

This guardian was undeterred by her size.  African women are extremely strong and durable. There is a saying here, "empower the African woman and you empower Africa!"

(Sidney sewed over 100 wrap around skirts and headdresses for the guardians.)

The guardians couldn't believe that they were getting a new outfit of clothes for themselves. Modestar passed out this box full of exotic colors to everyone's delight. 

(The rest of the orphans get their share.)

The remaining orphans sponsored by various loving people, received their share.  What a difference this act of kindness makes in the lives of these children.  

(All of us, happy 😊, celebrate together.)

We, the helpers, assembled with the last group, and felt honored to serve.  It was so fulfilling to bring a ray of sunshine to the children's lives. 

(Headman, Impala Paul was on hand to help his people.)

He is very happy that we help the children in his region. It is customary to offer a gift to the headman. So, he was also given a supply of food. 

(Teachers are also happy recipients.)

Ruthie (L) is very helpful to HHTH as we work at the school. She has never asked for anything for herself. CJ brought each teacher an inexpensive watch.

This is a video of a teacher receiving one of the Ngula's Sidney sewed. She believes she is a beautiful princess with her new headdress and wrap skirt. Takes so little to please.


("I'm so pretty... O, so pretty, and witty, and gay...")

This teacher felt like she transformed into a beautiful princess when she adorned herself in her new outfit. And she IS beautiful!!

(These precious little girls expected nothing but got a surprise.)

These "Dollar Store" African American dolls put a sparkle in their eyes. 

(CJ let the learners know that HHTH paid their school fees for 2 semesters.)

Our plan was to buy them all shoes, but the guardians all requested school fees be paid instead. Angela and John (our Aussies) bought every child a pair of flip flops. 

(The learners excitedly displayed their receipts.)

This means they get to stay in school for now. 

(The guardians broke out in song and dances in gratitude.)

The guardians ask us to please let them express their appreciation.  It melted our hearts. 

(Never too tired for pizza.)

It was not Pizza Hut, but close enough. The dirt, sweat, and grime were not as bad when you "take the pause that refreshes," an ice cold Coca Cola ( they did not have Dr. Peoper), and a goooood pizza. 

"IT IS HARD TO SAY GOODBYE"

The end of our time here was upon us.  Our hearts were full to the brim and our eyes had to blink back the tears. 

We get to know our children a little better each year, and it is heart rending to have to say goodbye.  

(The children can't let Wayne go without a goodbye to the Madala - "old man with the white hair".)

They feel brave when  they can run up and touch our white skin.  It compares to our American Indians who counted coup by touching the enemy without killing them or getting killed themselves.   But the children instinctively know we love them and we are their friends. 

(They are not afraid to show their love ❤️.)

Their openness, innocence, and their irresistible smiles melt all barriers. 

(BFF. "Best Friends Forever.")

They express their love so freely.  Their friendships are very important in their daily life. They have someone to share their hardships with. 

(Our Carvers requested prayers, and, as usual, asked for us to bless them.)

They believe blessings come to them every time we have been with them. A year is a long time in between our visits,  but many contact us during the year as well. 

(Mashonga and Memory's chickens are in safe hands.)

Since our leaving, they have sent several photos and the chickens are growing crazy fast  like sweet potato vines. The chicks are at the half way mark. They will be selling their first batch in about 3 weeks. Their profit will be a little smaller as they pay back half of what they received so HHTH can help someone else. After that they will reap all profit for themselves. Trust continues to mentor Mashonga in chickens so he doesn't lose any. 

(Farewell to our favorite place to eat.)

The Three Monkeys is new to Victoria Falls, but it has become THE place to go for all the locals and tourists.  They make a "drop dead" gorgeous meal that is really tasty. 

(Wayne caught CJ and Sidney relaxing in the late, cool, African afternoon.)

After the very tiring journey from Zimbabwe to Mutale, South Africa, we were ready to "kick it in neutral" for a few minutes. We are back at our beloved Awelani... What a sight for sore eyes!
We were back "home."

(Wayne tried to "test drive" the new Awelani luxury tent beds.)

But, just like Goldilocks, he fell sound asleep and never found out how comfortable the beds really were. I think they passed with flying colors though.  The crisp white sheets, the gentle African breeze coming in all around him, and the muted sound of exotic birds were just too much for him to stay conscious. So, he shamelessly abandoned himself to the best nap of his life!  zzz 😴💤

There is much, much more. Tune in again soon. 

From the Bush, Sidney

Tuesday, June 6, 2017

"A GLIMPSE AT A DAY IN THE LIFE OF OUR "BUSH BABIES" (May 31, 2017)

HHTH "took" to the Bush to experience life as our orphans do in their environment.  We want you to know these vulnerable children up close and in a personal way. 

(L to R: CJ, Angela and Sidney on the jungle trail.) 

We struggled through the tangle of trees, thorn bushes, weeds and vines, where everything looked like a "Tarzan of the Jungle" movie set. The Settlements are all pretty much the same... with mud huts called "rondevals," thatched roofs and dirt floors.  

(Several huts make up a family settlement.) 

(Most of the time, the family cooks outside, but if it is cold to them, they build a fire on the floor and cook inside.) 

The people in the villages basically live an outdoor lifestyle, and they sleep in small rondevals.   Most do not have electricity, and they must walk quite a ways to fill up their water jugs. 

The children are designated as orphans if they have lost both parents and there is no one to care for them... OR, if there is only one parent but who has no job and they struggle to survive. 

(Troy Moyo is one of the children Sidney and Wayne sponsor.)

He lives with his mother, but his sister has been caring for him since he was a young boy.  When he started receiving food, he wasn't doing well in school because he was hungry all the time and couldn't concentrate. Now his chances are greater to do better in school. 

(Buhlebenkosi and her mother stand at her father's grave. Life is stark when a father is lost to the family. )

Buhlebenkosi Zikhali lives with her mother who has never remarried. They do not know what the father died from. He is buried on their settlement where he is honored by the family.  Buhlebenkosi' name means God's Beauty, and she is one of Kai and Shana's tribe. 

"HE IS STILL JUST A CHILD BUT HIS HEART IS BRAVE"

(Trynous on mattress on floor in his little hut.) 

Trynous' father abandoned him and his mother when he was a very young boy. When his mother remarried not long ago, her new husband did not accept Trynous, so his mother left him in a little hut and moved away with her husband.  Now Trynous lives alone at age 14, in a small hut with no one to care for him. He must fend for himself as he doesn't have any relatives in this area. 

(Trynous receiving food from his sponsors Kai and Shana.)

Standing behind this large stack of food, Trynous was overcome with tears of gratitude for Kai and Shana's generosity in feeding him. All these children's stories seem hopeless, but, really their stories testify to the value of their sponsors' "giving hearts," and how very essential you are in their lives. 

(Praise proudly displays her letter from her sponsor, Betti Alessandri.) 

This letter was so important to her, that Praise has saved it all year. The letter is proof to her heart that someone cares for her.  Praise is one of the six children that Betti sponsors. The food, clothes, shoes and school fees mean everything to these marginalized children. 

(Sebuza)

Sebuza is one of 4 children sponsored by Liz and Brent Kearns.  She was so happy to receive all the wonderful gifts from Liz and Brent.  She also loved reading the letter from her sponsors. 

(Shamain shared her good grades.)

She feels really good earning high marks and likes math. She also showed us her letter from her sponsors Alan and Ann Salomon from last year. 

Shamain's sister Brandy was standing near her and very timidly asked if she could be on the list to receive food.  She eagerly showed us her good grades too.  With a sinking heart, I had to tell her we would have to put her on a waiting list for sponsors until we could get back to the states to find someone willing to sponsor her.  The look of lost hope fell across her eyes. Their old grandfather tries to take care of them and 2 other children. But there just isn't enough.  Her clothes were so worn we gave her a dress and school bag from amongst the many we and volunteers had made for all our orphans. 

(The material for Brandy's was came from our dear friend Jonathan Flanary.)

Jonathan owns the successful Aiden's Fabric Store and has been donating large quantities of fabric to HHTH to make all the clothes, pillow cases, ground cloths, baby carriers and wrap around skirts with matching headdresses for many years. He lives in South Carolina and himself is involved in missionary work in Guatemala.  Jonathan, your incredible generosity brings so much joy to the gray lives of these children.  

(Miracles come in fleeting moments almost unnoticed.)

Angela and John, our new Aussie friends promptly offered to sponsor Brandy when they heard her story. 

(Brandy in her new dress and bag, smiling with fresh hope.)

"THERE IS ALWAYS THAT ONE CHILD... THE ONE WHO STICKS OUT..."

("Leave It" stands in the shade by a tree on his settlement, contemplating us.) 

Leave It is one of our delights with his vivacious personality laced with a huge portion of mischief. He also belongs to Kai and Shana's tribe and is one active little boy. We noticed he had ring worms as many children do here because they live in the dirt and go barefooted. HHTH supplied the guardians with detrol, a disinfectant so they can wash the child's head and clear up the ring worms. 


Leave It is one of the many victims of some of their tribal customs.  If a man loses his wife and remarries after that loss, his new wife is obligated to accept his children as her own. However, if the wife remarries and her new husband does not accept her children, she must leave her children with her family and go with her new husband. So many children are at the mercy of the Mother's people and must hope that they will take them in. 

(Prichard stands tall in his brand new school shirt.)

Prichard is one of 2 boys sponsored by Barbie and Jeff Weisserman, and he made it clear to us how grateful he is that they chose him. 

(Babongile means "Thank You.")

Babongile lives with her father and other siblings. She is sponsored by Ginny Wisely, whose 8 year old daughter, Anna, prays for her African sister every night. Anna, saved her allowance and sent $10 to us to get Babongile a gift especially from her. 

(Over 50 years ago, Sidney wrote books for her children.)

One was "Kaykapoo The Jungle Kuckoo."  She revised it to be made into a coloring book for our Monde orphans and Todd ran off 50 sets for the children to color. The children's creativity sprang to life and they colored these books beautifully. 

(The Monde primary children wrote letters to their sponsors.)

Their expression of gratitude just for food was humbling.  

(Babongile's letter)

(Our Sizinda High School Students ponder how to express themselves to their sponsors.)

It still mystified them that strangers from a far away continent would care enough about them to provide them with food and necessities. 

All these children feel abundantly blessed to be sponsored by you. They are grateful for the positive changes your help has made in their lives. 

In poverty of this sort, choices have to be made that most of us would never have to think about. Instead of choosing between several options WHAT we want to eat, they must calculate their supplies and how many days before they can buy more then they must decide if they can have one meal or two that day. 

The children on our waiting list just hope they will be one of the lucky ones chosen to be sponsored.  If you are interested in blessing the world of a child with food and essentials it is only $25 per month. You will not only bless their lives, but you will fill the goodness in your own heart for doing so.  You will make a drastic change in their life. 

If you want to be part of our this tremendous effort to save some of the vulnerable children in our world, please contact HHTH on the information below:

Sidney Bonvallet
248-514-3022
email: sid4wayne@gmail .com

Or   

CJ Christopher
248-496-3052

Our life on this planet is more noble and worthy when we hod out our hand to help those who struggle for life. 

We are so grateful for the ones who are already helping us with these remarkable children. Just consider the "greatness" that might be released by you. 

These are just a few of the children HHTH helps in Zimbabwe. There are more in South Africa where we are working at the moment. 

What a privilege it is to work in God's plan to change lives. 

Until next time...

From the Bush,  Sidney